She Feels Unworthy

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She has been robbed and abandoned by the side of the road. She is wounded. She doesn’t feel worthy of love and rejects it when it is offered. How could she respect someone who would love someone “like her?” She feels alone and insignificant. She never forgets. She lives with the pain that seeps up, but she has become the master of pushing those feelings down. They are always below the surface. She must protect herself from further hurt. It is just too painful to talk about or admit. Her heart hurts. “And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” 

She comes in with much fear and trepidation. Can she really deal with all those emotions that make her feel like she is going crazy? She knows it is all her fault; she made the decision, and she knows the worse sin to commit is to take the life of her own child. She is tormented. There is no peace. She must take this step and move forward. She must. She is greeted at the doors with hugs from women who have made the same choice. It amazes her how they can say the word abortion and not break down in tears. They are so strong. How can that be? Can she be like that, too? 

She comes into the meeting and sees a beautiful table set before her with decorations and lit candles. In her seat is a card that says, “You have been prayed for…” along with a piece of chocolate. She feels underserving of any of these gestures. Then she is invited to have a meal with the group. She has been invited to the banquet. She must try to help pay for her meal or at least clean up, but she is not permitted. She has never actually been treated with such kindness. Her guard begins to go down as she begins to see she is accepted, just as she is. The fear of judgment is alleviating. 

The meal reminds her of the communion meal with Jesus and the love and laughter at the table is a refreshing escape from the constant gnawing feelings she battles every day. She begins to warm up to this small group. When the meeting begins, she is amazed at the stories of these brave women! She can’t believe they have lived similar lifestyles! The don’t “look like” they had abortions! 

Abortion Recovery AlabamaAnd so, the healing begins as the love flows. She has found the ones who refused to walk past her. She has found the ones who know what she is going through and because of their love, she is going to be pointed to the One who heals. She is going to be healed and she is going to be made whole. Abortion Recovery Alabama hosts free, caring, confidential, non-judgmental small group Bible studies. Learn more at www.abortionrecoveryalabama.org

 

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Our House

The real estate market is much like our summer days here in Birmingham- HOT! With it being so warm outside, there are few things that irritate us more than the AC not working properly, especially after moving into a home you just bought. 

HVAC systems are complicated since they involve electrical, plumbing, and mechanical components. It is not uncommon for one component to go out causing stress on another component, thus causing multiple expensive repairs. We highly encourage sellers to have a HVAC company they trust service each unit before listing their home. This allows sellers the opportunity to thoroughly assess and address any conditions requiring attention by a qualified and licensed technician. This documentation also helps home inspectors as they come through a home providing a general home inspection.

What if you have an older HVAC system? Do you have to spend anywhere from $5,000 – $12,000 per unit to sell your home? Not necessarily. Many sellers are utilizing the services of a quality home warranty company. Two things should be done to help ensure a Home Warranty will repair/replace a unit. First, have the units serviced before closing (which we’ve already covered). Second, get the unit(s) certified. It’s as simple as calling the home warranty company, requesting coverage during your listing period, having a representative of the home warranty company visit your home to assess the units, and get your certification. The certification provides the home warranty company with a track record; meaning they know the current condition and have an opportunity to assess the units for repairs before providing coverage on them.

At the end of the day, a certification puts the home warranty company on the record to repair it or replace it. The seller has saved the buyer from inheriting an unknown costly repair after just moving in and the buyer has the peace of mind knowing in the event a repair is needed, the cost is significantly less than paying for a repair or new system. 

Once this middle ground is gained by all parties, both buyers and sellers have cooler attitudes and can amicably negotiate and come to a place where everyone is happy.

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Money Matters

Brought to you by: Community Partner Vision Financial Group

Community Partner Logo 20 Years 150x150Several women-dominated industries were hit hardest by the pandemic. Since the 1980s, unemployment rates have trended higher amongst men than women during a recession. In previous periods of economic downturn, this made sense. Male-dominated industries, like construction and finance, were typically some of the most impacted by a recession.(1) 

But with the onset of COVID-19, we’ve seen a shift in what workforces are the most impacted. The unemployment rate among women more than quadrupled from 4.4% in March 2020 to 16.1% in April 2020. That’s a 2.5% higher rate of unemployment in women than men.1 

There are a few reasons why this past year’s economic downturn is being called a “she-cession.”

Several women-dominated industries, including hospitality and leisure and entry-level food positions, were hit hardest by the pandemic. And when schools, nurseries, and daycares shut down, parents scrambled to cover. This increased need for full-time childcare meant many working mothers adjusted their professional roles to accommodate. 

While the government offered several short-term assistance options to help those affected by the pandemic, there are long-term, compounding financial hardships that should be addressed by a professional. If you have experienced financial strain due to the long-lasting effects of COVID-19, do not hesitate to reach out. We are here to help get your financial goals back on track.

-Vision Financial Group 

4505 Pine Tree Circle, Birmingham, AL 35243

205-970-4909 

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This material was prepared by MarketingPro, Inc. and does not necessarily represent the views of the presenting party, nor their affiliates. Investment Advisory services offered through Investment Advisors, a division of ProEquities, Inc., a Registered Investment Advisor. Securities offered through ProEquities, Inc., a registered broker-dealer and member of FINRA & SIPC. Vision Financial Group, Inc. is independent of ProEquities, Inc. 

Citations

  1. Federal Reserve Bank of St. Louis, 2020
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Legal Matters
Brought to you by: Community Partner Bradford & Holliman

Community Partner Logo 20 Years 150x150As your family enjoys July 4th, give some appreciative thought to the 377,210 veterans and their families who live around you here in Alabama. Alabama has 1,713 military personnel who have served in post-9/11 wars which ranks 7th highest per capita in the nation.

The Veterans Administration and several non-profit and volunteer organizations work to take care of these special individuals who have served our country. However, VA-accredited Alabama elder law attorneys can offer a more comprehensive understanding of Alabama’s specific nuances in both estate planning and asset protection as well as VA benefits than out-of-state resources.

These attorneys develop strategies for veterans considering their veteran benefits and any civilian work benefits both while the veterans are alive (Disability Benefits) and for their families after they are gone (Aid and Attendance). VA-accredited Alabama elder law attorneys can also assess veteran benefits in the context of long-term care, Alabama Medicaid, asset protection, guardianships, conservatorships, wills, and various kinds of trusts that are beyond the scope of VA benefits.

A good understanding of both pension and service-connected claims and Department of Defense benefits is needed to make the best choices at the right times for a veteran. Sometimes, a non-service-connected pension is a better choice. Without knowledgeable advice of CRSC (Combat-Related Special Compensation) and CRDC (Concurrent Retirement and Disability) payments, a veteran can lose out on benefits. Many veterans are eligible for Tricare for Life or CHAMPVA health insurance that provides important free health coverage.

VA Dependency and Indemnity Compensation (VA DIC) is best known for the benefits for veterans’ surviving spouses and children, but it may also apply to a parent based on the VA’s special definition of a parent which includes loco parentis. It is easy to miss these options without VA-accredited legal advice.

As your family enjoys hot dogs and fireworks this month, give a salute to the veterans around you who have defended our country in so many ways for so many years. And if you are a veteran or a veteran’s family, thank you for your service and talk to a VA-accredited elder law attorney about your VA benefit options soon.

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Congratulations to our Readers’ Choice Winners for Summer Family Fun!

Thank you to all of our readers who participated in our Readers’ Choice Survey! As a thank you for taking the survey, readers Ashley Matteo from Birmingham and Matt Scott from Oneonta each won four tickets to Alabama Adventure & Splash Adventure!

Chelsea Fest and the Big Kaboom FireworksCongratulations to the City of Chelsea for being the Readers’ Choice for Favorite Summer Entertainment Spot! The City of Chelsea hosts several annual events with lots of family fun in mind! Save the date for the Chelsea Fest and the Big Kaboom on July 3! The fun begins at 5 p.m. and includes live music, vendor tents, food trucks, and fireworks at 9 p.m.

Gulf Shores Beach RetreatGulf Shores Beach Retreat is our Readers’ Choice for Favorite Summer Recreation Spot! The retreat is an incredible facility where groups connect and build relationships! Located in Gulf Shores, Ala. only steps away from the beautiful white sandy beaches of the Gulf of Mexico, the retreat has all of the amenities groups need to learn, grow, relax and have an amazing time. 

Shocco Springs blob on the lakeCongratulations to Shocco Springs Camp & Conference Center for being our Readers’ Choice for Favorite Summer Camp! Centrally located on over 800 beautiful, wooded acres in Talladega, Ala., Shocco Springs is an all-inclusive camp and conference center where you can relax and unwind in God’s incredible nature while holding your church or school group’s next event. This month, Shocco Springs will host the first Shocco Day Camp- a Jesus-centered, outdoor, recreation-driven day camp for kids 5 to 12 years old.

Greater Gadsden TourismNoccalula Falls is our Readers’ Choice for Favorite Summer Travel Spot! The area includes Noccalula Falls Park and Campground with hiking and biking on the black creek trails, an animal habitat, botanical gardens, and the spectacular falls cascading over 90 feet into the Black Creek ravine! For other great activities in the area like fly fishing visit www.greatergadsden.com. 

Chick-fil-A Brookwood DiningCongratulations to Chick-fil-A Brookwood Village for being our Readers’ Choice for Favorite Summer Dining Spot! The team invites you and your family to step in out of the summer heat to enjoy a meal together in their spacious food court. Conveniently located off Lakeshore Drive in Homewood, it’s a great stop over between summer activities. Hours are 10:30 a.m. until 6 p.m. Monday through Friday and 10:30 a.m. until 2 p.m. on Saturday. †

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Reading is fundamental. It affects all areas of a child’s success. And summertime is a great time to make reading a priority.

Boy reading in LibraryDr. Amy McCollum is a pediatrician at Midtown Pediatrics in Birmingham. She says it is important for parents to encourage strong reading habits in their child, and she says that begins at birth. “I would really encourage parents from birth to start reading to their baby,” she says. “Holding your child and reading a book together is going to have these great associations of attachment and connection. Your voice, which is the most comforting voice, is going to be what they hear.”

As the child gets older, Dr. McCollum says parents should encourage their child to choose what books they want to read. And she adds, don’t worry if they stick with the same theme, or want to read the same book over and over; they’re still reading. Make library visits a regular part of your summer. Dr. McCollum says if you are able, choose one day a week that is a library day. “Talk to the librarian, let them suggest books the child might like,” she says. “Check out books on a regular basis and sign up for summer reading programs at the library.” Again, Dr. McCollum says as the child gets older, continue to let them choose the books they are interested in. “I think sticking with the topic of letting them choose what they’re interested in is important,” she says. “For instance, if your son only wants to read graphic novels instead of chapter books, that’s fine if that’s what he enjoys.”

As kids get older, encouraging good reading habits can be challenging, as video games and devices serve as constant distractions. Dr. McCollum knows this firsthand. “We just have to fight to fight. In my family 30 minutes of reading gets you 30 minutes of video game time,” she says. And parents should ask themselves, am I modeling good reading habits to my child, or am I spending my free time on a device? By putting forth a little bit of effort and intentionality, any child can become a reader.

-Children’s of Alabama, www.childrensal.org 

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Two Brookdale ResidentsCome Join Our Family! We are excited and proud to say that Brookdale University Park is open to new residents! Brookdale residents enjoy an engaging lifestyle with a selection of care options to meet changing needs. The community conveniently located off Lakeshore Drive offers a full continuum of care, including independent living, assisted living, Alzheimer’s and dementia care and skilled nursing and rehabilitation. Call 205-870-0786 to connect with one of our team members who would be delighted to help you plan your personal visit, www.brookdale.com.


Downsizing Seminar: You Are Invited! 

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Chances are, you have been thinking about simplifying your life by downsizing. Let us help! It’s easier than you think. Join Brookdale University Park for a free workshop featuring tips and advice from the experts. While you are here, let us show you our community to see the types of services and amenities we can offer you. We will be here to help ease your transition so you can focus on living the life you want.

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Wednesday. September 22, 11:30 a.m. – 1:00 p.m.

Special Guest Speakers, Tara Holman and Brian Carlson, Trading Places Co-Owners and Elizabeth Daly, Keller Williams

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Brookdale University Park, 400 University Park Drive, Birmingham, AL 35209

For reservations or more information call 205-870-0786.


Brookdale Downsizing SeminarBrookdale University Park recently hosted a free seminar on Downsizing. If you missed it, register now for the Wednesday September 22 seminar by calling 205-870-0786.


Brookdale LuncheonNew Residents Welcomed! A recent luncheon was hosted at Brookdale University Park to welcome new residents. Come visit the campus to see for yourself the benefits of Brookdale!

-Leanne Messer, Brookdale University Park

Contact Leanne to participate in upcoming Brookdale educational offerings and to schedule a tour, [email protected], 205-613-0688.

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Mission Makers

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Are you struggling to figure out your purpose in life? Do you feel that something from your past is blocking you from that purpose? Have you always wanted to help others but don’t feel qualified or even know where to start? Would you like to go deeper with God? Feeling overworked, but wondering how to rest and serve God at the same time? Well, you’re not the only one with those questions! Transformation Ministries (TM) was founded and developed to help people receive healing, restore hope and then train and equip you to pursue God’s purpose for your life. 

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Transformation Ministries classes for the fall semester begin August 17. To register, visit www.trministries.org.

Transformation Ministries does three things: 

1. We provide biblical counseling to hurting families and individuals.

2. We train and equip the layperson to help others. 

3. We do inner healing and deliverance ministry using the Restoring the Foundations (RTF) prayer model.

The TM School of Ministry offers a four-semester program with each semester lasting about 13 weeks. The fall semester starts August 17 and registration is open now. Visit www.trministries.org to register now. These inner healing classes will change your life. For the Fall of 2021, we’re excited to announce our new Hebraic Institute partnering with “Be One Ministries” with Jeff and Sherri Friedlander. Be One Ministries is a ministry in the local Birmingham area seeking to help Jewish and Christian/Gentiles believers become one family under Messiah, Jesus. The first class taught by Rabbi Jeff Friedlander will be an exciting and interesting way of reading and understanding the Bible from a Hebraic point of view and understanding. Some key topics are The Living Word, The Living Spirit, The Living Communion, The Living Law, Living His Rest, and History of Biblical Israel and Judah to the New Testament. 

Transformation Ministries LogoTransformation Ministries offers free high-quality biblical counseling to hurting individuals and families and we are a resource offered to all churches. If you need healing physically, mentally, or emotionally, our prayer teams are praying every day and our prayer rooms are busy. Anyone is welcomed to make an appointment and come receive from the Lord. This summer we are hosting a marriage conference with Dan and Lydia White on August 27-28 at Liberty Church in Birmingham. If your marriage needs help or you just want to make it even better, you won’t want to miss this time with a dynamic and musical family leading worship, teaching, and breakout sessions. For more information about this conference or to register for any of our upcoming events, visit our website, www.trministries.org or call 205 991-4988 for more information.

-Warren “Rock” Hobbs

Founder, Transformation Ministries

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