Do Our Responses Create Anxiety or Peace in Our Kids?

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“The sky is falling!” The warning of imminent danger from all around sounded by Chicken Little is a phrase that could easily be spoken over the last year and a half. Pandemics, racial tension, rioting, uncertainty, and political divisions are all skies collapsing in different areas around us. 

The anxiety and chaos of these and many other problems are going to leave the world in need of deep processing, counsel, and therapy. As parents, are we passing these anxieties and stressors on to our children? Or do we view the world by faith knowing that the end of the story has already been written?

In The Pandemic Population, Dr. Tim Elmore describes the current state of children and students’ post-pandemic world: “On the outside, they’re clowning around on Snapchat and TikTok, laughing at memes and making others laugh at filtered photos on social media. Inside, however, their mental health has gone south. It appears their life is a comedy, but in reality, it feels like a tragedy. They are mourning just how overwhelmed they feel – how behind they assume they are and how much they’ll have to make up in order to catch up.” Our children have struggled more than they know how to admit and more than we even understand. When it comes to difficult circumstances and moments, how can we respond from a position of faith instead of the anxiety of Chicken Little?

By remembering three key truths:

1. God Reigns as Sovereign. Isaiah 6:1a ESV says, “In the year that King Uzziah died I saw the Lord sitting upon a throne, high and lifted up.” Despite the chaos of a changing ruler, God sat and reigned as sovereign on the throne. He is not caught off guard by chaos in our world.

2. The Story Has Already Been Written. Revelation 22:20b reminds us, “Surely, I am coming soon.” Jesus will return. He is the Author of the story. We can have hope that He holds our lives and stories also in His hands.

3. Our Hope Is in a Different Kingdom. Revelation 21:5b says, “Behold, I am making all things new.” Our hope is that Jesus will come again and make all wrongs right and make everything the way that it was meant to be. Our ultimate hope cannot be found in this world.

Ben Birdsong Head shot-Dr. Ben Birdsong 

Missions Minister at Christ Church Birmingham

Writer and Speaker

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We live in a world where no one seems to be present in the current moment. We are mentally present in the past while we regret yesterday’s mistakes. We are mentally present in the future when we worry about what the world beyond may hold. Through social media, we are present in the highlight reels of others while missing our own lives unfolding before our eyes. Oftentimes, we are anywhere but here.

Our presence with our kids and spouse is central to the growth of our relationships. Time is the one resource that we cannot replenish, and this summer, we have the opportunity to maximize the moments we are given as we remember these three biblical truths.

1. Tomorrow’s Worries Are in God’s Hands. Matthew 6:34 ESV says, “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” We should not worry about tomorrow because the concerns of tomorrow rest in the hands of One whose grip is much greater than ours. He will hold us, lead us, and guide us into whatever challenge tomorrow may bring.

2. Tomorrow’s Accomplishments Are According to God’s Plans. Proverbs 27:1 ESV reminds us, “Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.” The plans of tomorrow rest in the control of One who has much greater wisdom than we can possess. We should work and invest realizing the Holy Spirit is the One working in and through us.

3. Today Is a Gift We Don’t Want to Miss. Psalm 25:4-5 ESV says, “Make me know your ways, O Lord; teach me your paths. Lead me in your truth and teach me, for you are the God of my salvation; for you I wait all the day long.” We can be present today because the God who rescued us by His grace is the same God who is leading us into truth and teaching us today.

Will you choose to be present this summer? Will you be present for your kids? Will you be present for your spouse? Will you be present today for God to teach you and lead you deeper into His truth for your family today?

Ben Headshot 2019-Dr. Ben Birdsong
Missions Minister at Christ Church Birmingham
Writer and Speaker

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Graduation is a moment where the triumph of completion and the challenge of transition collide. As a parent, you have spent many days wondering if this time would ever come for your senior. All the lectures about grades have paid off. All the teenage drama of high school begins to fade into distant memory. You and your child have made it! But with graduation comes a time of great transition for your family. Once the confetti has been thrown and the celebrations have ended, you realize that your senior will be transitioning to a new stage of life. Your role as your child’s parent will look different, yet your role is still crucial in the life of your graduate. How should you approach this new stage of parenting?

1. Release Your Recent Graduate to God and His Plan. Releasing is easier said than done. In releasing your recent graduate, you are allowing him or her to pursue the dreams that God has for them and to explore who the Holy Spirit is making them to be. They may not have the same visions and goals that you would have if you were designing their life, but you must trust that God is in control. God’s plan for your child is better than you could imagine.

2. Reach Out to Encourage and Support Your Graduate. Your recent graduate needs your support and encouragement more than ever. They are navigating a new place, new roles, and forming new relationships. Your relationship with them as a parent will be a source of stability. Understand encouragement and support may look different than you may desire so allow your recent graduate to set the pace.

3. Remember the God Who Is with You and Your Graduate. As you and your recent graduate go through this transition, you will never go alone. God is the one who goes before you both. As Moses encouraged Joshua when he faced a time of transition in Deuteronomy 31:6 ESV, “Be strong and courageous…for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you.” No matter the new path that you walk as a family, you will never walk alone. 

Ben Birdsong Head shot-Dr. Ben Birdsong 

Missions Minister at Christ Church Birmingham

Writer and Speaker

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